What I’ve learned after forty-two years of life, after being divorced, living with undiagnosed, untreated depression and ADHD until two years ago, caring for my ex-girlfriend – whom I loved – who has severe ADHD, depression, anxiety, and PTSD, along with her two daughters, and caring for-then losing my father to liver and gall-bladder cancer, and as a result, losing my ex-girlfriend and her two daughters after she discovered I had allowed myself to be drawn into an emotional relationship with my ex-assistant principal, who basically used me – which showed me what was most important to me in my life.